Abiding in Love

Fellowship with God
Fellowship with RM-RW

Fellowship with God

Not only does God have love.  He is Love.  His Love is maintained by His perfect integrity.  So, there is never a time He does not have Love.  His Love has always existed and always will exist.  And His Love is always available.  However, His Love is Spiritual, and His Love cannot be compromised.  He does not Love sin, and His perfect integrity requires that He reject human good and evil.  His holiness must remain separate from sin.

In order to Love sinful man, God had to find a way to do it without compromising His perfect essence, including His absolute Righteousness and perfect Justice.  That was accomplished through the work of Jesus Christ on the Cross when He paid for the sins of the world.  The substitutionary spiritual death of Jesus Christ on the Cross satisfied the Righteousness and Justice of the Father and opened the door for Salvation and fellowship with God.  Jesus Christ, the Mediator, satisfied all of the requirements of the Father and all the needs of mankind to reconcile man to God.

Because God the Father was propitiated with the work of Christ on the Cross, He is free to have fellowship with man.  All who will believe in Jesus Christ are welcomed into the Royal Family of God with Love.  God is free to pour out His Love on all believers.  God has always desired to express His Love to mankind, and His Love is always available to all who will respond in Grace.  Salvation is available to all unbelievers.

But God demonstrates His own Love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died as a substitute for us. (Romans 5:8)

For you see, in this manner, God Loved the world, that He gave His uniquely born Son that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have Eternal Life. (John 3:16)

Fellowship with God is available to believers.
We Love because He first Loved us. (1 John 4:19)
We can respond to God's Love for us.  We respond with the same Divine Love that we receive from Him in Grace.  We call that Love Reciprocal Love because it is directed back toward God.  God gives us His Love through the ministry of the Holy Spirit.  When we are Filled with the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit pours out Reciprocal Love for God in our hearts.
and confidence does not disappoint us, because the Love for God has been poured out in our hearts through the personal agency of the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us for our benefit.  (Romans 5:5)
The Lord Jesus Christ demonstrated the Love relationship between God and man.
"Just as the Father has loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My Love.  (John 15:9)
God the Father Loved Jesus Christ in Hypostatic Union just as Jesus Christ Loved His disciples.  The disciples were commanded to abide in Christ's Love.  They were to remain in fellowship with Him with Reciprocal Love.

The only way to Love God is His way.  The Love is Spiritual, and the believer must be Filled with the Holy Spirit.  Sin destroys integrity and the Filling of the Holy Spirit.  Therefore, the believer must be sanctified, which requires Rebound.  Otherwise, there can be no Love response and no fellowship with God.  Spiritual Love is different from human soul love, therefore the believer must grow to Spiritual Maturity in order to have a mature Love relationship with God.Abiding in Love

Fellowship with RM-RW

Living the Christian life requires abiding in the Love of God.  This means abiding in fellowship with the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit.  The believer must have Divine Love in his heart in order to respond to God's Love with Reciprocal Love.  He must erect the Edification Complex of the Soul (ECS) in order to protect the integrity of his Love relationship with God.  He must develop Capacity for Life and Love through the daily metabolization of Bible Doctrine.  He must advance to Spiritual Maturity in order to have Capacity for Life and Love in his relationship with God and man.  And he must advance to Spiritual Rapport in order to secure peace and harmony in the Spiritual life from the attack of Satan's Cosmic System.

The Edification Complex of the Soul is the Temple for fellowship with the Father, the Lord Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit.  It is like the Holy Place in the Tabernacle.  It is the home for the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit in the human spirit.  Corresponding to the layout of the Holy Place, fellowship with God for the Christian requires Faith (X-axis), Hope (Z-axis), and Light (Y-axis).  Love is the relationship with God in the Holy of Holies, which corresponds to Heaven.

In addition to rooms for fellowship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, the ECS also has an Intimacy Room for Right Man or Right Woman.  The Intimacy Room is for Spiritual fellowship with Right Man or Right Woman.  Like the ECS and Holy Place, it also has Faith, Hope, and Light plus Love from the Holy of Holies, corresponding to God in Heaven.  The RM-RW relationship is Spiritual, and God provides the Divine Love for it.

The one who loves his brother abides in the Light, and there is no stumbling-block in him. (1 John 2:10)
"Brother" refers to a Christian brother.  The verse applies to Christian brothers and sisters, which also includes Right Man and Right Woman, who are also Christians.  The most important relationship in life after God is with Right Man or Right Woman.  After those relationships comes a relationship with a Christian brother or sister.  Although the RM-RW relationship is much more intimate, the principles that apply to a Christian bother or sister must not be violated in the RM-RW relationship (1 Pet 3:7).  Love for Right Man or Right Woman is in the Light of God as opposed to the darkness of the Cosmic System.  Thus, fellowship of Right Man and Right Woman in Spiritual Rapport has Spiritual Love and Light.  Abiding in Love for Right Man or Right Woman is Spiritual fellowship with that one.  There is no stumbling-block to cause sin or destroy the fellowship when the person abides in Love.  Love keeps the relationship from failing.

With the Right Man or Right Woman at home in the Intimacy Room, the person is occupied with Right Man or Right Woman.  This is Spiritual fellowship with Right Man or Right Woman.  Being occupied with a lover is commonly called being in love.  Spiritual fellowship must precede physical fellowship and even conversation.  Spiritual fellowship between Right Man and Right Woman is the closest thing to the Garden of Eden in this life.

The Shulamite woman was occupied with her Shepherd Lover even when she was being courted with all the charm that King Solomon could muster.   Some of the verses that indicate her preoccupation with her Shepherd Lover include:

Song of Solomon 1

4 Draw me after you; let us run.
The King has brought me into his bedroom (inner chambers).

7  "Tell me, O you whom my soul loves, where do you pasture your flock, where do you make it lie down at noon? For why should I be like one who veils herself beside the flocks of your companions?"

13  "My beloved is to me a pouch of myrrh
Which lies all night between my breasts.

Song Solomon 2

16 "My beloved is mine, and I am his; He pastures {his flock} among the lilies.
17 Until the day cools and the shadows flee away;
Return, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or a young hart upon the cleft mountains!

Song of Solomon 4:16
Awake, O north wind, and come in, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden; cause its fragrance to flow.
Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his choice fruits.

Song of Solomon 5:10
My beloved is dazzling and ruddy,
Distinguished among ten thousand.

Song of Solomon 8:6
"Put me as a signet-ring on your heart,
As a signet-ring on your arm.
Because love is as strong as death;
Jealousy is as cruel as the grave;
Its flashes are flames of fire,
The flame of the LORD.


Stumbling-blocks that will destroy the Right Man Right Woman relationship come from the world, the flesh (OSN), and the devil.

Old Sin Nature (OSN)

Any sin from the OSN will destroy the fellowship with God and with Right Man and Right Woman.  Arrogance and jealousy are sins that are the enemies of Love (SOS 8:6).

Or do you suppose that the scripture speaks to no purpose against jealousy?  The Spirit, which He (God) has caused to dwell in us, yearns over us. (James 4:5)
Fear and worry are sins from lack of Capacity for Life, which destroy Love (1 Jn 4:18).  Hatred is a sin which is the opposite of Love.  Mental attitude sins of hatred or bitterness destroy Love (Eph 4:31; Col 3:19; Heb 12:15; 1 Jn 2:11; 4:20).
But the one who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes.  (1 John 2:11)
The person who hates his brother, which may include Right Man or Right Woman, is in darkness.  Darkness corresponds to Blackout of the Soul.  Darkness from Satan's Cosmic System floods the soul, and the person goes about his life ("walks") in darkness.  He is in a state of spiritual confusion and doesn't know where he is going.  He cannot recognize and discern spiritual issues.  He is like a blind person, who cannot see which way to go.

When the Right Man or Right Woman is not at home in the Intimacy Room, there is a void of darkness there.  The person has a blind spot, which renders the person spiritually crippled.  When the number one love relationship outside the Godhead is darkened, the Spiritual life will have a major malfunction.  It's like trying to drive with a flat tire.  The life will be out of balance and without harmony.  Only with Love and Light in the Intimacy Room will there be harmony in life.  Failure to achieve Harmonious Rapport in the Right Man Right Woman relationship destroys the rest of one's life.  Failure in the Right Man Right Woman relationship is like a train wreck.

The World

Worldly attacks include attacks from paramours that arouse the lust pattern and plunge one into Reverse Process Reversionism, which has been previously explained.

The Devil

Satan's great attack on Right Man Right Woman is through the Prostitute of Babylon.1  Satan dispatches demons to empower the woman to undermine the Right Man Right Woman relationship.  The man can also come under the spell of demons, which destroy the Right Man Right Woman relationship.2  Such demon influence is quite prevalent and must be overcome to reach Harmonious Rapport.3

Satan's master genius is his attack on the Spiritual relationship between Right Man and Right Woman through the Prostitute of Babylon.  This is how he did it in the Garden of Eden, which he handled personally.  Now he sends a demon to a woman to upset her Spiritual life.  The woman with the demon does not have Divine Love and Light.  Consequently, her Christian (Spiritual) fellowship with Right Man is destroyed.  The Intimacy Room is full of darkness, which connects her to the Cosmic System.  She is empowered by Satan to do his bidding, just like the woman in the Garden after she sinned.  Job's wife under the power of Satan urged Job to "curse God and die" (Job 2:9).  The woman with a demon may lure not only her Right Man, but others into sin.  In this way Satan steals the blessing of the Right Man Right Woman relationship and drags it into the cursing of the Cosmic System.

Satan rules the world by holding the RM-RW relationships captive just as King Solomon tried to do with the Shulamite Woman and her Shepherd Lover.  The Prostitute of Babylon first destroys the Spiritual relationship of Right Man and Right Woman.  After that, marriages will self-destruct.  And since Marriage Culture is the seed of society, then the family, the economy, and government institutions will follow.

In some cases, Satan is allowed to attack Marriage and the Right Man Right Woman relationship in Evidence Testing.  Evidence Testing must be passed in order to glorify God to the maximum by promotion to Spiritual Rapport.  This is what happened to Job.  Satan destroyed Job's Marriage, his family, and his health (Job 1:13-22; 2:7-9).  However, when Job passed Evidence Testing, God gave him his Right Woman and greatly blessed his new Marriage.

Although the stumbling-blocks in the Right Man - Right Woman relationship are numerous, the solution is to execute the Spiritual life and advance to Spiritual Rapport.  The believer who reaches Spiritual Rapport glorifies God to the maximum, defeats Satan, and qualifies for Harmonious Rapport with Right Man or Right Woman.  The Spiritual Love in the Right Man - Right Woman relationship is Divine.  God provides it in Grace.  The Love is on a higher plane than human soul love.  The Love for Right Man or Right Woman becomes the ultimate Love for another human being so much so that no one else can ever be a substitute. Spiritual fellowship of Right Man and Right Woman is the purest, truest, and highest human love in this life.


Right Man or Right Woman Reversionist
Divine Punishment
Redemption Solution
Historical Impact
Church Analogy

Right Man or Right Woman Reversionist

What happens when Right Man or Right Woman is a reversionist?  Since the pair are inseparably united (1 Cor 7:4), this would create a dilemma for the partner who wants to be obedient to the Spiritual life.  Examples of such unmatched pairs include Jacob and Rachel, Nabal and Abigail, Hosea and Gomer, and the Shulamite woman who was married to Solomon.

Jacob advanced in the Spiritual life to maturity and Spiritual Rapport, but his Right Woman, Rachel, was a reversionist.  She did not Rebound and even held to her household idols.  She died the Sin Leading to Death when Jacob reached Spiritual Rapport.

Nabal was a drunk and a worthless fool, and Abigail was a mature believer with advanced knowledge of prophecy.  Although they may not have been Right Man and Right Woman, they were married.  When Nabal made a bad decision that put his life and his family in danger, Abigail assumed responsibility for him and saved his life.  Nabal died the Sin Leading to Death, and Abigail became the wife of David.

Hosea was a great prophet, but his wife, Gomer, was a prostitute.  In spite of Hosea's efforts to sanctify her, Gomer returned to prostitution.

The Right Man of the Shulamite woman was her Shepherd Lover.  However, she was married to Solomon in a dysfunctional relationship.  She eventually escaped from Solomon and went back to her Shepherd Lover.

When a person's Right Man or Right Woman is a reversionist, the relationship is dysfunctional.  It is like plowing with an ox and an ass, the marriage of a believer and unbeliever, or a believer fornicating with Belial.  The couple can never have harmonious rapport and go back to the Garden.  What should a believer do when his Right Woman is a reversionist or vice versa?

Fortunately, as long as a person is serving God, all is not lost.  There is hope, even if the other person is unwilling to Rebound.  The positive believer can seize the opportunity to demonstrate what Adam should have done when the woman sinned.  What would have happened if Adam had not sinned?  The positive believer can give up and join the reversionist or choose to obey the Lord and live the Spiritual life.  The reversionist, on the other hand, will go down to the grave in the Sin Leading to Death.  One road leads to Life and the other to death.

The Lord is still the Matchmaker.  He is responsible for the Right Man Right Woman relationship.  If He delivers one into reversionism and the hands of Satan, the other may still choose the Lord, execute the Spiritual life, and advance to Spiritual Maturity and Spiritual Rapport.  Having a reversionistic Right Man or Right Woman is a major problem, but it is not the end of the Spiritual life.

Divine Punishment

All believers can expect Divine punishment, especially those in Right Man Right Woman relationships (Heb 12:6).  Reversionism will lead to intensified punishment and end in the Sin Leading to Death.  Reversionists in the Right Man Right Woman relationship can expect heavy Divine punishment.  The one who chooses to obey the Lord will also be punished.  In addition to punishment for his personal problems, he will be punished for being in an unsanctified relationship and will face Eclipse Testing.

Relationship with a reversionist also opens the door for demon attack associated with the Prostitute of Babylon.  Since the reversionist is under the power of the Prostitute of Babylon,  the other person in the relationship can also expect demon attacks.  The cursing will continue until the Prostitute of Babylon is defeated in Spiritual Rapport.

Redemption Solution

Sin is the problem that corrupts and destroys sanctification in the Right Man Right Woman relationship.  A relationship with a Right Man or Right Woman reversionist illustrates the Redemption Solution of Christ who gave Himself to purify us from sins (ref. Eph 5:25-26; Tit 2:14; Heb 7:26-27; 9:14; 10:10, 12).

Just as Christ lay down His life for us, so also we should lay down our life for the other person (1 Jn 3:16).  The life that we lay down is the New Spiritual life in Christ.  We lay down our life by executing the Spiritual life that we have opportunity to live in Grace and passing the tests we are given.  If we give up and go back to our old life, we will not be able to help our self or our reversionistic counterpart.

Historical Impact

Right Man Right Woman testing is parlayed into human history.  Hosea was told to marry Gomer, a prostitute, because Israel was practicing prostitution associated with idolatry (Hos 1:2).  The relationship between Hosea and Gomer symbolized the relationship of Israel with the Lord.  In another case, Oholah symbolized the Northern Kingdom of Israel, and her sister Oholibah symbolized the Southern Kingdom (Ezek 23:4).  The intense punishment from reversionism in the Right Man Right Woman relationship will be reflected in the blessing or cursing of the nation and the world.

Church Analogy

The Right Man symbolizes the Lord Jesus Christ, and the Right Woman symbolizes the Church.  Sanctification of Right Man and Right Woman qualifies them for Spiritual Rapport with the Lord Jesus Christ as the Right Man of the Church (2 Cor 11:2; Eph 5:22-32).  The Right Man Right Woman relationship is an opportunity to understand the Lord's relationship with the Church.  It is an opportunity to be sanctified and be promoted to Spiritual Maturity and Spiritual Rapport in the Church.

The purpose of Right Man and Right Woman is to get married, go back to the Garden, and live happily ever after.  Unfortunately, that seldom happens.  Two people must agree to have Spiritual Rapport with God before they will have harmonious rapport with each other.  Very few ever make it to Spiritual Rapport.  Yet the love relationship with the Lord is far superior to the heartaches of the relationship with Right Man or Right Woman.  Even when saddled with a reversionistic Right Man or Right Woman, it is still possible to have great Love and Happiness in Spiritual Rapport with the Lord Jesus Christ.

Marriage is a problem manufacturing device (1 Cor 7:28) (Ref. Marriage Analogy).  Even those who have a Right Man or Right Woman should concentrate on having Spiritual Rapport with the Lord.  Spiritual Rapport with the Lord Jesus Christ is the ultimate goal of the Christian life.  Testing in the Right Man Right Woman relationship can help attain that goal.



1.  Larry Wood.  Babylon the Great.
2.  Larry Wood.  Demons in Love.
3.  Larry Wood.  Dealing with Demons in Grace.

Released November 30, 2011 - Revised May 13, 2015

Author: Larry Wood
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