Grief is a type of suffering.  It is sorrow of soul that accompanies loss or punishment.  Grief is a sign something is wrong.  It is not a sin, but a weakness.

Examples of Grief

Grieving Over Death of Loved One

Christians should not grieve over the death of loved ones as those who have no hope.
But we do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve, as do the rest who have no hope. (1 Thessalonians 4:13)
Christians have the hope of Eternal Life with a Resurrection Body.  They are going to Heaven, which is a place of no more sorrow or tears.  People who go to Heaven are in a better place.  The unbeliever doesn't know this and has great grief in the death of loved ones.

David mourned excessively over Absalom.

David behaved like a big cry-baby over the death of his long-haired, rebellious wild-child son, Absalom.  David's wailing made everyone else miserable.

Death is God's victory.  Death is a sovereign decision of God, who alone determines the time, manner, and place of death.

1 Corinthians 15
55 Oh death, where is your victory?  Oh death, where is your sting?
56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the Law.
57 But thanks be to God, who gives to us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
Death is a sovereign decision of God.  The death has a Spiritual meaning from God that has nothing to do with how good or bad the person was who died.  Even in the case of the Sin Unto Death, God makes the final decision of the time of death.  Therefore, there is no need to speculate on whether the person died the Sin Unto Death because even the Sin Unto Death is God's victory.

Sorrows Paid for on the Cross

Sorrows were paid for on the Cross.  The Christian life should be a life of victory and happiness.
Isaiah 53:3-4
3 He was despised and forsaken by men; a man of griefs, and well acquainted with disease; and like one from whom men hide their face:  despised, and we esteemed Him not.
4  Surely, He has borne our diseases and our pains:  He has laid them upon Himself; but we regarded Him as one stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

Grief Causes Stress in the Body

Grief may cause stress in the body and sickness.  Stress should be kept out of the soul.  When it is invited in, it will become garbage in the subconscious and stress in the body, which leads to sickness or loss of health.
“My eye has also grown dim because of grief,
And all my members are as a shadow. (Job 17:7, NAS)

My eye has wasted away with grief;
It has become old because of all my adversaries. (Psalm 6:7, NAS)

Be gracious to me, O Lord, for I am in distress;
My eye is wasted away from grief, my soul and my body also. (Psalm 31:9, NAS)

Solution to Grief

Grief must be understood and checked before it advances into the sins of worry, hypersensitivity, insensitivity, or self-pity.


Grief is a sign that something is seriously wrong in the Spiritual Life.  Grief should not be ignored, lest it become stress in the soul and body.  It is normal in suffering to have grief, but the grief should be handled by one of the Problem Solving Devices.  Grief must be faced with objectivity.  Excessive grief is a sign of subjectivity and lack of Spiritual strength.  When grief leads to sin, it must be handled with Rebound.  Grief must not be allowed to progress to self-pity, which is a very destructive sin complex.

Author:  Larry Wood,   Released September 12, 2001

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